Side Chick culture is rampant out here nowadays. It's not only glorified but celebrated.
No women should ever be ok with being on the side. We are all worthy to be the one and only as God intended.
In God's Economy men are one woman men. If you were supposed to have more than one God would have took more than one rib and made more than one Eve.
So even though side chicks are fashionable these days the consequences can be devastating. Take it from the original side chick: Hagar.
Now if you don't know the story of Abraham, Sarah and Hagar read up on it here. But in a nutshell, God told Abraham who was a very old man that he would have a child and the nation of Israel would come through that child. His very old wife Sarah didn't see how that was possible with her so she concocted a plan to make God's plan happen. Note: God doesn't need help btw.
So she sent Hagar to have sex with her husband and get pregnant. Which she did.
Now this isn't a traditional side chick story but this isn't unique either. The traditional story is Guy has a wife, he cheats on wife with the side chick and she gets pregnant and has a baby. Hagar's story is more of a lifetime TV movie where couple wants a baby, wife lets husband sleep with lady to get said baby. Surrogate turns out to be crazy.
What is traditional is the outcome. Hagar, the side chick, began to feel like she should be the main chick because she has the baby, the heir, the prophesied child. And she started rubbing it in Sarah's face.
The thing is, she wasn't the main chick. She wasn't Abraham's wife. She didn't have the heir. Sarah was Abraham's wife Hagar was not and the prophecy was with Sarah and Abraham not her.
In today's world this would've been when the side chick would confront the wife and say look what I did for your man that you couldn't. Ouch!
So what did Sarah do, she confronted her husband about it. And what did he do? He chose his wife over Hagar.
The end result, Sarah eventually also has a son. Sarah felt threatened by Abraham's son with Hagar so they are sent away. Now a father and son are no longer together.
This isn't new. It happens all the time. The men almost never choose the side chick. They always side with their wives and because they want to make their wives happy they end up not being in their child's life like they would want to. In God's economy the wife is who they made a covenant with and have a responsibility to.so it makes sense that the man would chose his wife. And most women don't want a constant reminder of the pain of the side chick relationship. We don't have to like it but that's the reality.
I chose this three way to highlight because of its present day implications. God made a promise to make Abraham's son's descendants numerous and He kept that promise. Isaac who grew up with his father birthed the nation of Israel. Ishmael who did not birthed the nations in the Middle East. Still today these groups fight over being the legitimate descendants of Abraham.
I can only imagine Ishmael growing up and becoming an angry young man, hating the fact that his younger brother grew up to have the birthright he believed belonged to him. And he and his descendants have lived up to his name.
If this story isn't enough of a cautionary tale I don't know what is. It doesn't pay to be the side chick.
No women should ever be ok with being on the side. We are all worthy to be the one and only as God intended.
In God's Economy men are one woman men. If you were supposed to have more than one God would have took more than one rib and made more than one Eve.
So even though side chicks are fashionable these days the consequences can be devastating. Take it from the original side chick: Hagar.
Now if you don't know the story of Abraham, Sarah and Hagar read up on it here. But in a nutshell, God told Abraham who was a very old man that he would have a child and the nation of Israel would come through that child. His very old wife Sarah didn't see how that was possible with her so she concocted a plan to make God's plan happen. Note: God doesn't need help btw.
So she sent Hagar to have sex with her husband and get pregnant. Which she did.
Now this isn't a traditional side chick story but this isn't unique either. The traditional story is Guy has a wife, he cheats on wife with the side chick and she gets pregnant and has a baby. Hagar's story is more of a lifetime TV movie where couple wants a baby, wife lets husband sleep with lady to get said baby. Surrogate turns out to be crazy.
What is traditional is the outcome. Hagar, the side chick, began to feel like she should be the main chick because she has the baby, the heir, the prophesied child. And she started rubbing it in Sarah's face.
The thing is, she wasn't the main chick. She wasn't Abraham's wife. She didn't have the heir. Sarah was Abraham's wife Hagar was not and the prophecy was with Sarah and Abraham not her.
In today's world this would've been when the side chick would confront the wife and say look what I did for your man that you couldn't. Ouch!
So what did Sarah do, she confronted her husband about it. And what did he do? He chose his wife over Hagar.
The end result, Sarah eventually also has a son. Sarah felt threatened by Abraham's son with Hagar so they are sent away. Now a father and son are no longer together.
This isn't new. It happens all the time. The men almost never choose the side chick. They always side with their wives and because they want to make their wives happy they end up not being in their child's life like they would want to. In God's economy the wife is who they made a covenant with and have a responsibility to.so it makes sense that the man would chose his wife. And most women don't want a constant reminder of the pain of the side chick relationship. We don't have to like it but that's the reality.
I chose this three way to highlight because of its present day implications. God made a promise to make Abraham's son's descendants numerous and He kept that promise. Isaac who grew up with his father birthed the nation of Israel. Ishmael who did not birthed the nations in the Middle East. Still today these groups fight over being the legitimate descendants of Abraham.
I can only imagine Ishmael growing up and becoming an angry young man, hating the fact that his younger brother grew up to have the birthright he believed belonged to him. And he and his descendants have lived up to his name.
If this story isn't enough of a cautionary tale I don't know what is. It doesn't pay to be the side chick.
The Unlikely Missionary
DHW
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